Chat at 1 p.m. Hi Meredith, My ex-girlfriend and I were together for a year and a half. The first half we weren't really dating, but we were exclusively sleeping together; we just didn't call it dating. But during our senior year of college we became a couple. As graduation approached, when it came time to talk about our future, things soured. I don't take full blame for our breakup, but I will say I lit the match that ignited it. She was moving to a new city and I was leaving the US for the year. That type of unsteady foundation made it almost impossible for us to build a life together, so it collapsed. This breakup happened more than a year ago. In that time, I have slept with other people and seriously dated one other. This next person was incredible and I was in love with her. But circumstances ended that relationship, and I am not too upset about it. I know it wasn't my fault or hers, just one of those things. Now I am single and I am taking stock of my personal life. I have … [Read more...] about What if my past is my future?
I've been married for 10 years (I am 36), and we have two children that are under 10. Since they were born, I've felt trapped. My husband has always been an absent father. He continued to go to work, see his friends, and travel, and he left me home alone with two kids. He also kept complaining that I was not a good wife, not a good housewife, not a good mother, not a good worker. He kept pointing out all my faults and he never really tried to share the burden of raising our kids. He concentrated on his job, obsessed by our mortgage. I told him we could sell the house and pay a rent, but he refused. I kept holding on to love, knowing that he loved me and I loved him. Even if he wasn't perfect, he was still the best ... until one day he wasn't. I found a way to return to my career and I was given the chance to travel for three days and leave my kids with my mom. While away, I met an old flame, W. I met up with him again on subsequent business trips until I fell in love with him. We live … [Read more...] about I want to cheat on my husband
Jamie Bradley, a 25-year-old advertising manager, quit her job to travel the world for a year. After just six weeks, she returned home having realised how lonely it gets while travelling without a companion. Bradley also learned how hard it is to connect with others while travelling and the annoyance of having to constantly plan your day. When Jamie Bradley quit her full-time job to travel the world alone, she expected a life-changing experience, similar to “Eat Pray Love.” She expected, at least, to have exciting adventures in beautiful places like the ones she’s seen in the pictures that crowd her Instagram feed from fellow world travellers. Instead, she experienced what very little people talk about when they travel alone: The constant loneliness that can often ruin the entire trip. Bradley, a 25-year-old advertising manager in New York, was confronted with this reality after she quit her job and decided to travel around the world for a year back in 2017. But … [Read more...] about I travelled alone and it was one of the worst decisions of my life
Season 2 of the podcast begins today. The first two episodes involve a hair salon that got into matchmaking, and an office romance that very much involved HR. Find it on iTunes here. Find it on Spotify here. Dear Meredith, I recently changed cities, and one month after my big move I met a new guy. I was immediately passionate about him in a way I've never been with someone straight off the bat before. We've been dating ever since, and I love that he is such a genuinely kind person, but recently I've found myself thinking back to someone who hurt me almost a year ago, before my move. This man and I also met on a dating app. He was an art student's dream; he restored old buildings for a living, had a film photography hobby, and played an instrument. We dated for two months, during which time we saw each other three or four times a week, agreed we wanted more than a hookup, met each other's friends, and became exclusive. He took so many Polaroids of me that I'm still coming across the … [Read more...] about With my new boyfriend, thinking about my ex
I’ve built my whole career on words. I received a journalism degree from Grand Valley State University, worked as an entertainment writer right out of college, became a magazine editor a couple years later and have built a robust freelance-writing side hustle. In college, I wanted to make sure my vocabulary was in tip-top shape before embarking on my words-focused career, so I’d put up a "word of the week" on a whiteboard in my living room. I learned more words, and my roommates even got involved, and told me they enjoyed seeing new words they can use. I love words, but not nearly as much as I did when I was a bright-eyed journalism student, and there’s a reason for that. LOSING MY WORDS I started noticing my trouble with words a few years ago. I’d be having a conversation or writing a piece when the word I want to use is just… not there. I’m a writer, I have aced every vocabulary quiz, every spelling test and even was a spelling-bee finalist in my … [Read more...] about The Monthly Migraine – How migraine changed my relationship with words